I recently heard a speaker who had engaged in an immoral lifestyle in his younger years, but later received Jesus as his Savior. He now oversees a thriving ministry. In his talk, he described “three Cs” that should comprise intimate relationships.

He said many people rush to the first two Cs: Chemistry and Compatibility. They don’t take the time to make sure that the person with whom they’re becoming romantically involved has the third “C”: Character. Countless relationships have been shipwrecked because of the lack of this “C.”

Paul asked a protégé named Titus to address the character of the new believers on the island of Crete. The culture there was corrupt—as were the people. So, starting with the leaders of the church, Paul described what things were needed for godly living and character. These inner qualities with outward implications included living a “blameless life,” being “faithful” to one’s spouse, not being “arrogant or quick-tempered” or “a heavy drinker, violent, or dishonest with money” (Titus 1:6-7). Those shepherding the flock were also to “love what is good,” “live wisely and just,” “live a devout and disciplined life,” and deliver “wholesome teaching” (Titus 1:8-9).

In chapter two, Paul then described character qualities that should be evident in all church members—things such as “self-control,” “sound faith,” “love,” “patience,” being “pure,” and living “wisely.”

Godly character comes as we grow in our relationship with God. Before you set sail in a romantic relationship based on just the first two “Cs,” take the time to get to know if the person to whom you’re attracted possesses the most important one: Character that flows from a real relationship with Christ!

NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Isaiah 53:1-12