Imagine this. You’re hanging out at home when a bull blasts through the back door, crashes into the kitchen, hurtles down the hallway, and then rockets around the living room. That happened to a family in Aachen, Germany. Before the homeowner finally opened the front door and allowed it to escape, the bull had caused more than $16,000 in damage.

When I picture the bull’s rampage, it reminds me of the way anger can suddenly be set loose, ricochet from person to person, and leave emotional wreckage in our homes. Its damaging power is to be avoided: “Don’t sin by letting anger control you” (Ephesians 4:26).

James gave us some practical advice on how to get a grip on our anger. He started by saying we should be “quick to listen” (v.19). Groan. That just feels so unnatural. But swift listening gives us a chance to discover what’s really going on. Was my child disrespectful, or just being a kid? Did my husband really mean that, or did I misunderstand? How much of this situation is my fault?

Once we train ourselves to be nimble listeners, we have to practice slow speaking. This poky approach to stating our case gives us time to pray for self-control and to form an appropriate response. After all, “a gentle answer deflects anger” (Proverbs 15:1). Being slow to speak implies that we have chosen to rein in the destructive power of our words.

Finally, if anger is inevitable, James advises us to override our explosive impulses and to be slow to let it grow. And there’s a good reason for this. He goes on to state, “Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires” (1:20).

Like a bull on the loose, untamed anger is dangerous. When we see it approaching, it’s up to us to listen quickly, speak slowly, and sidestep its rampage.