I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior when I was 15 years old. When my dad found out, he was heartbroken because of his differing religious beliefs. He couldn’t sleep well for the next several nights. He felt that he had failed as a father because he couldn’t keep his family together. His daughter had deserted the family tradition and chose to follow a “Western god.”

I love my dad, but on this matter I knew I couldn’t follow him. Instead, I became the first Christian in my family.

So what does it mean to obey God’s commandment in honoring our father and mother? (Exodus 20:12). Honor is a heavy word—literally. The Hebrew word is kaved, meaning “heavy” or “weighty.” So to honor one’s parents is to give due (weighty) respect for their position. It includes speaking respectfully to them, and speaking kindly about them. This is the fifth commandment God gave His people in Exodus 20:1-26, following four commandments that dealt with loving Him. By inference, love for God must come first.

Paul puts it this way: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord” (Ephesians 6:1 NIV).

When Francis Schaeffer followed what he believed was God’s will by going to seminary, he said to his disappointed parents: “I love you, and I’m sorry to make you unhappy, but I am convinced that this is what God wants me to do, and I am going to do it.” His obedience to God was, in the end, the means of bringing first his father and later his mother to faith in Jesus Christ. Even in going against his parents’ wishes, Schaeffer showed them respect and kindness.

As you consider the fifth commandment (Exodus 20:12), remember that it’s weighty—but also that God is to be loved first and foremost.

NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Mark 8:22–9:1