In the wake of numerous public confessions by fallen politicians, sports figures, and business executives, Paul Wilkes references Susan Wise Bauer’s helpful distinction: “An apology is an expression of regret: I am sorry. A confession is an admission of fault: I am sorry because I did wrong. I sinned.” Wilkes goes on: “Apology addresses an audience. Confession implies an inner change . . . that will be manifested in outward action.”
The apostle Paul made a similar and profound distinction. He contrasted godly sorrow, which conforms to God’s standards, and worldly sorrow, which does not (2 Corinthians 7:10). Godly regret and emotional pain, Paul said, brought repentance—a change of mind and behavior.
As the believing Corinthians received Paul’s rebuke and became aware of their sins (2 Corinthians 7:8-9), he wanted them to respond with bitter sorrow and to turn to God for forgiveness and transformation. This godly sorrow produced, among other things, sincerity, readiness to make amends, and a desire to live godly lives. Thus, godly sorrow would lead to salvation. Worldly sorrow, however, doesn’t produce God-centered repentance. Peter was an example of godly sorrow (Matthew 26:75; John 21:15-19) and Judas was an example of worldly sorrow (Matthew 27:3-5).
It’s not enough for a believer to regret or simply be sorry for the effects of sin. When our sorrow does not lead to God-centered transformation, it becomes self-pity and unproductive grief, and it leads to death. When a believer exhibits godly sorrow, he accepts the rebuke of God’s Word, realizes that he has transgressed His standard, humbly admits his failure, and turns back to God’s standards and service.
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Acts 8:1-25
More:
Read Psalm 32:1-5 and Psalm 51:1-10 to see examples of godly sorrow.
Next:
When you sin and are confronted and convicted by God’s Word, what kind of sorrow do you most exhibit? For what sin is the Holy Spirit leading you to express godly sorrow today?
haru on October 18, 2013 at 12:44 am
I feel this is a very important theme for me.
Ngozi on October 18, 2013 at 7:49 am
I can relate with the fact that Godly changes comes from inside out and will be a proof to those receiving the apology to see practical changes in you which only God can bring. This will point them to God without words.
GChoo on October 18, 2013 at 11:04 am
This reminds me also of forgiving ourselves for the hurt or harm we have done to others besides seeking God’s forgiveness and those we hurt. Through God’s grace and mercy, He will lead us away from self pity and unproductive grief. God’s Word gives us the strength and the wisdom to godly transformation and to live productive lives according to His many promises, for example, Psalm 32:1-5, 1 John 1:9.
Tricia Fry on October 18, 2013 at 5:11 pm
I am grateful for this message. This is not an easy topic for me but the holy spirit has spoken to me through this message. I now have some work to do in sorting out my feelings and being sure that I direct them appropriately and correctly.
Praise God for this Lesson!!
mike wittmer on October 19, 2013 at 5:24 pm
This is an extremely helpful distinction between apology and confession. May we demand true confession from others, and from ourselves, when sin has occurred.