In the book Encouragement: The Key to Caring, Larry Crabb describes how nerve-wracking it was the first time he volunteered to pray out loud during a church service. Larry recalled, “I found my theology becoming confused to the point of heresy. I remember thanking the Father for hanging on the cross and praising Christ for triumphantly bringing the Spirit from the grave. Stuttering throughout, I finally thought of the word Amen, said it, and sat down. I recall staring at the floor, too embarrassed to look around, and solemnly vowing never again to pray or speak aloud in front of a group.”
He goes on to tell how an older man in his church sought him out after the service and said to him, “Larry, there’s one thing I want you to know. Whatever you do for the Lord, I’m behind you 1,000 percent.”
Now there was a man who understood the power of a timely word! (Proverbs 15:23). Perhaps he saw Larry as a promising, young teenager who was embarrassed and troubled. Maybe he had experienced something similar as a young person and had tasted the shame Larry was feeling. Whatever it was that compelled him to speak, his words were an example of the proverb that says, “Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” (Proverbs 16:24).
When it comes to words of encouragement (Proverbs 15:4), timing is everything. It’s why Proverbs also emphasizes that even cheerful words spoken at the wrong time can be “like taking someone’s coat in cold weather or pouring vinegar in a wound” (Proverbs 25:20).
A lot of good can come from the right words spoken at the right time. Today, use words that will help heal hurting hearts and give people the true view of who they are in Jesus.
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Genesis 11:1-9
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Note the emphasis on timing and words in Proverbs 25:11.
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How might your words have lifted up or torn down others lately? How have Jesus’ words helped you to view yourself correctly?
alli on January 8, 2012 at 9:04 pm
boy do i ever need this, i seem to get it wrong so many times trying to be of help many times im more harm. why we need only to do what GOD tells us he’s the only one who knows what is needful.
conmeo on January 8, 2012 at 11:07 pm
Thank you Jeff for this inciteful devotion. Having experienced both sides of this discuscioni find it comforting even though my sharp tongue has cost me everything earthly. It reminds me of what is yet to come through Him! Bless you and the ODJ community
darah1962 on January 8, 2012 at 11:27 pm
Grace and Peace Jeff,
I have experienced almost the same thing, but except it was in my dream. I always had this fear being asked to pray and didn’t pray like my pastor or the deacon or the other sister of the church. I know that God didn’t give me the spirit of fear, and I know that my prayer doesn’t have to be like the next person, it comes straight from the heart. I have to remember that when I am asked to pray in front of a congregation, and if I mess up, I hope someone instead of scolding or say something to tear me down but say something to bring me up. Thanks for the sermon it was a blessing to me.
Bless the ODJ
RaeRae on January 14, 2012 at 3:11 pm
This is an encouragement for me because there are a lot of times that I feel like encouraging someone, but I get all caught up in the whole “what will they think of me” ordeal (which I know is the wrong attitude to have). The verses provided rebuked that prideful attitude, and I am thankful. We never know when a person might be in need of the right word at the right time. I don’t want to be guilty of holding back anymore. In the same breath, I think it’s very wise to ask God to help us recognize when some people are in a place where they DON’T need words from us, but instead, an attentive ear and compassionate heart will do a better work. Thanks for this post. I stand convicted!