Q: How do I know what to do next in life after having taken care of my Mom for over 24 years? —Raleigh
A: 24 years! You’re to be highly commended for your years of faithful sacrifice on behalf of your mom. At the same time, being a caretaker for so long presents some unique challenges. It can become so much a part of who you are that it’s hard to know what to do next.
I can’t give you a definitive answer to your question, for there are unique details and circumstances that each person in your situation encounters. I do believe, however, that God will reveal the next steps to you in time. As you wait, perhaps one of the best things for you to do is to acknowledge your place as the creature before our Creator and surrender all aspects of your future to Him. This is part of what Jesus encouraged us to pray for, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name, Your kingdom come, Your will be done” (Matthew 6:9-10). As you do this, you’ll be even better prepared to grasp and experience God’s wisdom and guidance. —Jeff Olson
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mike wittmer on August 17, 2012 at 11:41 am
Raleigh, as Jeff pointed out, there are so many variables to each situation so it’s hard to know what is best for you. But as you prayerfully seek God’s leading I would encourage you to try lots of new things–perhaps travel, go to new restaurants or stores, volunteer in a new setting, join a new group at church, invite someone over for dinner, etc. Try to have many different experiences and see what you enjoy. Also be willing to go slow–you don’t want to make major life decisions when you’re grieving, but now is a good time to put out feelers in preparation for the new season that awaits you. Godspeed!