A couple I know met, fell in love, and in time realized they wanted to give their lives to each other in marriage. But there was a catch. Both had been married before and had children from those marriages. The divorces had been bitter, and their children still felt the effects. How would another marriage affect their sons and daughters? Would the two families successfully integrate? Would it all be worth it?
The couple prayed about their situation and came to a decision out of personal conviction: They would postpone marriage until their children were old enough to leave home and live their own lives. They then worked out exactly how long they’d have to wait. How long was it? Eight years.
And that’s what they did: They waited 8 years to get married. Putting the interests of their children before themselves, they delayed their own fulfillment.
You won’t find many stories like that on the newsstand today. For the sake of those they loved, this couple chose patience, sacrifice, and delayed gratification. They humbly considered others as more important than themselves and looked beyond their own desires (Philippians 2:3-4). The couple chose to imitate Jesus—the One who emptied Himself of His divine right to self-fulfillment and became a bruised and battered earthbound Servant who poured out sacrificial love (Philippians 2:6-7).
Now, not every believing couple could or should choose the same path as my friends. Some might marry earlier based on their personal needs and convictions. What we should grasp, however, is that Jesus’ sacrificial love can mark our relationships (Ephesians 5:2). In imitating Him, we find what true love—His kind of love—looks like.
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Esther 3:1-15
More:
Read Galatians 2:20 and consider what it means to be found in Jesus.
Next:
What selfless act is God calling you to today? How can you do it with a Christlike attitude?
Gary Shultz on May 4, 2015 at 6:20 am
I love it when examples are just lived out in life. I’m sure eight years was not easy; however, they will have the delight and witness of living out love and sacrifice. What a gift to everyone watching those lives. What a great story, Thanks
Sheridan Voysey on May 5, 2015 at 2:55 am
They’ve left quite a legacy for others to follow, however one lives out their example. Thanks Gary.
godlove on May 4, 2015 at 8:00 am
Wow, thanks very much for that wonderful story. What a beautiful example of selflessness, following example set for us all by Jesus.
Tom Felten on May 4, 2015 at 2:00 pm
Sheridan, I’m reminded of the importance of Jesus’ command to remember his sacrifice as we take communion. This tangible way of celebrating His amazing love truly helps me in understanding what it means to truly love others!
Sheridan Voysey on May 5, 2015 at 2:54 am
What a good connection to make. Thanks Tom!