When we watch TV or engage in social media, we’re bombarded with images of individuals doing things we disagree with. Sometimes their actions are even illegal or immoral, and we may find ourselves thinking, I’d never do a thing like that! or, How can anyone even consider doing such a thing?
As believers in Jesus, we can easily fall into the trap of elevating ourselves above those whose lives and values don’t reflect biblical wisdom. It’s normal for us to compare ourselves with others, and we should disapprove of wrong behaviors. But if we compare our actions with those of others by focusing on their negative behaviors, we may end up elevating ourselves and doing what the Pharisee did in a parable Jesus told (Luke 18:9-10)—comparing ourselves to others in a self-righteous way.
The Pharisee “stood by himself” and rattled off a list of “sinners”: extortionists, unjust people, adulterers (Luke 18:11). Bemoaning their poor behavior, he then celebrated his own actions: tithing, fasting, and—of course—praying in an attention-getting way (Luke 18:11-12).
Now look at the “despised tax collector” (Luke 18:10). He was so humbled that he “dared not lift his eyes to heaven.” Broken before God, all he could do was ask for mercy, admitting his own guilt (Luke 18:13).
The Pharisee looked at others’ faults to bolster his superiority; the tax collector, however, focused his heart and mind—his everything—on God.
As we fix our gaze on Jesus and His sacrifice for us, we’ll resist playing the game of judging others. It’s only by God’s grace that we’ve been forgiven of our sins.
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Acts 25:1-27
More:
Read Matthew 7:1-2 and consider what it means to judge others in a self-righteous way.
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What can help you resist playing the comparison game? How has God’s grace changed your view of others?
godlove on November 14, 2016 at 3:36 am
Thank you Russell. I think the comparison habit is once again down to our sinful nature. It is true that it’s hard to avoid seeing others (especially if they are brothers in the faith) doing what we wouldn’t do and feeling self-righteous about it. But that happens a lot when we haven’t fully grasped that we are all sinners saved by His grace. The truth is that we all have our weaknesses. Ours may be less obvious to the onlooker than others’ but that doesn’t make it any less wrong as they are all clearly visible to God’s Eyes. What marks me the most about this parable is that while the Pharisee tried to highlight to God that others sin more than him, the tax collector focused on himself and his sins; it’s this attitude which I try to adopt. “For it is by grace [we] have been saved through faith, and this not from [ourselves]; it is the gift of God, not by works, so that no one can boast.” (Ephesians 2: 8-9). Understanding this truth also makes us more compassionate with others who are struggling with their own shortcomings, instead of being judgmental. Thanks and blessed week to everyone.
Tom Felten on November 14, 2016 at 8:19 am
Thanks for sharing those verses godlove. Yes, truly tasting of grace means that we see ourselves as we truly are and see others for what they could be!
corgimom on November 14, 2016 at 5:30 am
Thank you for this reminder. I have often found that when I am feeling self-righteous, God teaches me a lesson by giving me the same “thorn in the flesh” that I have criticized in others. It gives me fresh insight into the struggles others are dealing with and helps to remind me that, “but for the grace of a God, there go I.”
Tom Felten on November 14, 2016 at 8:23 am
So true and humbling, corgimom! I’ve had the same experience. Another challenge for me is feeling uncomfortable and at times wanting to move away from the person struggling with a sin issue, while I should be moving toward them to help—acknowledging my own sinfulness.
Gary Shultz on November 14, 2016 at 6:26 am
Russell, it is difficult not to engage in Pharisaical judgement when we see things that happen today. The short span of time between the triumphal entry and the crucifixion was filled with Christ’s view on this type of judgement, and it apexes in chapter 23 of Matthew. The conclusion, at least for me, it’s not behavior, it’s belief. We want people to behave like we think they should. Christ said they need to become like the tax collector and repent and believe. Behavior is driven by the heart, if the heart is not changed neither will be the behavior. So, the Pharisees, as Christ pointed out, just put a nice outward appearance to their stinking souls. Yes, the unbelieving heart gets lower and lower in sin, and some just put different paint jobs on themselves, but we need to stop pushing behavior and offer belief. Then behavior will be seen from the inside out because behavior will never make the soul good from the outside in. Thanks Russell
Tom Felten on November 14, 2016 at 8:24 am
Great insights, Gary. You’re right, we should not expect the caboose to drive the engine . . . belief can lead to changed behavior by God’s power!
hsnpoor on November 14, 2016 at 3:53 pm
Great insight, Gary! So true….
Mike Wittmer on November 14, 2016 at 8:36 am
Thank you for this sharing this truth, Russell. What I see depends on where I look. May I look only at Jesus today.
sim jing ying on November 14, 2016 at 8:54 am
Be satisfied in God can eliminate any comparison. I looked in others in love for brothers and sisters in Christ.
youssef1777 on November 14, 2016 at 10:13 am
SHOW LOVE BETTER THAN HATE . THIS WILL SHOW PEOPLE CAN SEE GOD THROUGH US .
Monica Brands on November 15, 2016 at 12:24 am
Thanks, youssef! A very powerful and needed word.