As a child growing up near the ocean, I did a great deal of boating. Weekends weren’t complete unless we rounded up friends and family and spent at least an afternoon on the water.
I vividly remember one occasion when a boat we were boarding wouldn’t start. It took nearly an hour of tinkering before the engine started. When it finally did, the driver was so excited he pulled away and made it far down the channel before he realized that he’d left his wife standing on the dock!
Rather than laugh off his mistake, his wife was furious. Several years later, she’s still angry with her now ex-husband for what he did that day. So sad. . .
It’s not easy to forgive when we’ve been intentionally or unintentionally hurt. But throughout life, following our Savior’s example, it’s vital for us to regularly choose to extend God’s forgiveness when we’ve been offended.
In her book The Quiet Place, author Nancy Leigh DeMoss draws from John 10:28 as she writes, “We so often find ourselves chafing against second causes—those people, circumstances, and events that seem to be wrecking our lives, making things so difficult and unbearable for us. But ultimately, we are not in the hands of other people and their sinful designs. We are not in the hands of chance or circumstance.” DeMoss goes on to share that because of Jesus’ sacrifice and the forgiveness He made possible, we can experience salvation and the reality that no one can “snatch” us from His loving hands.
Our heavenly Father, who is “more powerful than anyone else” (John 10:29), provides the identity and security we need by His divine power and promises. As we accept His love and forgiveness, we’re free to truly love and forgive others.
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: Matthew 2:1-12
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Gary Shultz on June 12, 2016 at 5:52 am
Hi Roxanne. Matthew West’s song “Forgiveness” was a real modern day work of how it feels. My all time forgiveness champ, besides Christ of course, is Joseph. He showed me forgiveness is a life style not just a bone you throw to the dogs now and then. Joseph’s life was built on forgiveness and I think God still uses people today that will freely forgive and show the greater love of God’s forgiveness. It is a hard thing at times, but how can we not forgive when Christ has been such a selfless example to us, How can one walk with God and not forgive? Thanks Roxanne.
joezeke on May 8, 2017 at 8:28 pm
Gary: Yes, a wonderful, insightful way to look at Joseph’s suffering!! Thank you!!
Roxanne Robbins on June 12, 2016 at 6:02 am
Gary – What an insightful way to view Joseph’s life, as one “built on forgiveness.” What an important foundation to lay.
al061016 on June 12, 2016 at 9:11 pm
For me, what I have learned over the years are, we need to be rooted and grounded in His love first (Otherwise, we will be living in darkness ourselves), and we need to have a willing heart to allow Him to do His work in us.
Once we do so, amazing things will happen.
When we are in love with Him, He will start to change our hearts and open our eyes, and enable us to see other people as how He sees them. We will see they are the souls in need of His salvation. They are the lost, just like what we used to be. Like the other devotional said the other day, they (we) are people bearing His image, being worthy of His love, and needing His care.
As He continues to work in us, we will find without much effort (It just comes. However, getting to here does require lots of efforts), we no longer care about what other people do to us, say about us, think about us. Because we know and we believe He has our well being is in His mind. He is the One in control of the situation, not people. (How frequent we act as if it is those people in control of the situation, not God.)
He is the One working in people’s hearts, not us. And only His love can change people and change things.
Don’t allow Satan to fool us. He is our true enemy, not another human being.
I found when I have confident in God, I am not afraid of people. But when I am not, I worry what they will do to me.
Trust Him. Put effort to work out the salvation given to us. Live out the life that’s living in us. Slowly but surely, we will get where He would like us to be.
“The slow and steady wins.” And God always wins.
With this new life living in us we got a new ID. We identify ourselves completely with our Saviour and Creator, and with the Kingdom values. This changes our way to see this world and ourselves. When we know we are safe in His loving hand, we can freely open up ourselves and relax and rest in Him. Enjoy our time with Him. Enjoy the peace, joy, and freedom in Him. Enjoy His healing power working in us to heal and to restore. Enjoy the true connection with Him and with people.
goodfather123 on May 6, 2017 at 10:16 am
Thankyou! My name is Charles tait and I am struggling with inforgiveness, and needed to hear that! Please pray for me in that area! God Bless you!
joezeke on May 8, 2017 at 8:31 pm
I, too, am struggling with unforgiveness…my mother (who passed away some 10 years ago) and others. Thank you so much for this post!! I am copying and pasting it now so I can reread as I need!!
adamdoss on May 6, 2017 at 8:23 am
I am reminded that God forgives me many times. I am reminded that He is longsuffering with me. I have a forgiving spirit. I have peace, hope and joy.
lindacolon on May 6, 2017 at 3:17 pm
My husband, Carlos, the love of my life passed away 5 months ago. After being on dialysis for 9 months, it was not working for him and he slipped into a coma and came out in a persistent vegetative state.
I became my husband’s caregiver for the last 3 years of his life 24/7… I took care of him like he was my 340 lb baby. Due to his obesity, he was not able to do much and was wheelchair bound due to a wound on his left lateral heel that I was able to get completely healed after a year. We were planning to get him some shoes that he had picked out a weekend before because he was given a clean bill of health for that issue.
He had a right BKA a year prior due to a sprained ankle!!! I never once complained and I never got help from either sons or his immediate family.
Okay I need to stop because it is a long story.
Here’s the forgiving part, his youngest estranged son who lives twelve hours away faxed a POA 4 days after Carlos’ coma for any health decisions for his dad. When I was called out of the room to be told that I no longer had a say in health decisions due to the POA that my husband supposedly signed 2 months prior!!! How and when??? Not possible because we never left each other’s sight with the exception of 4 hours in dialysis MWF and I dropped him off and picked him up. The only people who had authority for any information or go in to see him were me and his eldest son, who lives 8 hours away and never made an effort to visit during the three years he had been ill. The last time he saw them was when he had his amputation a little over three years.
Back to POA… I told the social worker all the above and that my husband’s signature was not his (his ex wife) signed it I later came to find out.
His son is making all decisions from 12 hours away and eventually shows up and decides his father will no longer get dialysis after I wanted to discontinue it weeks before when I was told his brain stage and working with him 3 times a day. Exercising him in bed and stimulating him, of course I never stopped talking to him. I never left his side.
His estranged son decided for hospice to take him to his grandfather’s home to pass away , which he did 3 days later. ❣️
I took care of meds and feeding him because he was hardly ever there. When he came, it was to get something and he’d leave.
I knew when it was time for Carlos to leave because he lost all bowel movement, so I called him and asked him to come quickly because he needed to help me clean his dad because I didn’t want him to be dirty when he took his last breath and he said he was not cleaning anybody’s sh… I told him he is your dad !! He sent 2 of his aunts to help. As soon as we finished, my love took 3 breaths and went to be with the Lord.
I could only afford a cremation and we had a service for him and my brother was in charge of setting everything up and taking things down because I was a mess. Grieving doesn’t get easier because you know your loved one will soon leave this world.
After everyone left, I left with my mom to my brother’s house to wait for the box of cremains, I just wanted to hold it and weep… my brother tells me that the box is gone!!! I immediately called his family and asked if they had taken it and they said that his estranged son told that I had loaned them to him and his mom so that they could have a service for him in their town 12 hours away.
I immediately called the police to report this and hope a state trooper could stop them but I was informed that because he is the son he has a right to them. I needed to take him to civil court to get them back. I don’t have money to do that.
He texted about a month later and told that if I wanted his cremains back, that I had to give him EVERYTHING we owned with the exception of my clothes and shoes!!! He gave me 15 days to do that or he would stay with Carlos’ cremains…
That is what I have had to forgive…
I know that my Father Jesus Christ can take care of that betrayal better than anyone else and give me peace.
Linda C.
joezeke on May 8, 2017 at 8:38 pm
OMG!! I can’t even imagine all that you went thru, Linda!! That is just horrible! And I won’t even try to offer anything simple about forgiveness, altho I know to find peace you must forgive and that only comes from God. I have junk in my own life that I haven’t been able to forgive, but nothing like yours. I wish I had more, but all I can offer is I will pray for you.