We all have that space in the home we would rather no one see—the messy garage, the cluttered study, or maybe, like me, it’s the yard. There are few things more beautiful than a well-kept lot with lush, perfectly mowed grass, neat hedges, and precision-trimmed roses. Our property’s hedges look more like an overgrown jungle and the grass is patchy and dry. So when our pastor’s wife, Mel, offered to help plant the roses she’d given me, I panicked! I was ashamed of our yard.
Just as there are parts of our house and our yard that we may be ashamed of, there are parts of ourselves we keep hidden from others and God. Lustful thoughts, uncontrolled anger, dishonesty—whatever it is, Jesus stands at the door to that shameful place and knocks. He says, “If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends” (Revelation 3:20).
The church in Laodicea was complacent and mediocre in all they did. Since they were “neither hot nor cold,” Jesus challenged them to be “one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth!” (Revelation 3:14-16). They slumbered in the numbness of accumulated wealth and succumbed to self-reliance and indifference towards the most vulnerable in society, so God called them “wretched and miserable and poor and blind and naked” (Revelation 3:17).
My friend Mel showed me that the only way to tame an unkempt garden is by focusing on one manageable spot at a time. Jesus didn’t give up on the church in Laodicea, and He hasn’t given up on you. He knocks on the heavy, locked door of your junkroom, and if you allow Him, He’ll come in to cleanse you and remove your shame (Revelation 3:18).
NLT 365-day reading plan passage for today: 1 Kings 22:29-40
More:
Read Matthew 8:1-3 and Luke 7:36-50, 19:1-10 to see how Jesus drew close to and even touched people viewed as untouchable or undesirable. He’s ready to touch the most shameful places in your heart!
Next:
What are you trying to hide from God and others? How will it affect you and your relationship with Him if you bring your shame to Him?
Gary Shultz on April 22, 2016 at 4:03 am
Well Ruth, the yard (lot) isn’t too bad, but we have our spots in the house that need attention. It is always amazing to me how accustomed to those cluttered spots we become, we hardly even notice them as we go about our life. Age has helped me greatly with my spiritual cluttered spots. I stay accountable to God and as Hebrews 4 says “all things are naked and open to Him with whom we have to do” He sees them any way. I decided just to take the door off the hinges in my spiritual life. Sometimes I need to run out quickly and say, could You come in here a minute? Sometimes I need constant exposure to have another set of eyes making sure clutter is not piling up. I am in no way perfect, but I am a lot quicker in dealing with accumulating debris. God has been kind, gracious and patient and now I like the door off. Thanks Ruth.
Ruth O'reilly-smith on April 22, 2016 at 8:37 am
Love that Gary – ‘leave the door open’.. Have an open house policy. The more we grow in our walk with Christ, the more willing we are to surrender those ‘messy’ rooms to God. He is kind, merciful, faithful and forgiving.
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 8:47 am
Ruth, one of the most treasured aspects of my friendship with God is the fact that I have no secrets and no fear of rejection from Him. I have such comfort and security in knowing that I can be completely naked before Him in all things, and He is neither surprised or put off by it. He is safe. I sit with my Wonderful Counselor everyday and open every door of my heart to Him. Sometimes He lingers awhile in specific rooms; sometimes He says, “Let’s come back to that one later.” 🙂 On the other hand, being open and vulnerable with people is more of a challenge for me. Certainly, discretion is needed, but it’s harder to share my “junk” with people. I have a close friend or two that I do trust, but I know that this is an area in my life that I can stand to improve. I believe that in the context of Christian community, transparency is important. God uses our exposed brokeness in wonderful ways. Hmm…You’ve challenged me to do better with this, Ruth. A blessed weekend to you and all my fellow sojourners here at ODJ!
godlove on April 22, 2016 at 2:13 pm
I know exactly what you mean, gagirllive (funny how I am a younger male from a completely different part of the world and yet I usually identify really closely with your experiences). I too find no difficulty and no fear whatsoever opening up all my darkest and most shameful rooms to my Saviour and my God, but I struggle a lot more when it comes to exposing myself to other people. It’s even more difficult for me with my close friends as I have a huge apprehension about being judged by them, either aloud or (worse) silently. I do have a few very close friends (more than friends, brothers) in whom I trust all of life’s trials and difficulties, except my spiritual weaknesses! I can’t find the same comfort and security with fellow man as I have found with our heavenly Father. This is a huge challenge for me! May the Good Lord help us all to expose our junkrooms so that His light can shine in there, and may this result in praise and thanksgiving being given to His Most High Name.
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 2:49 pm
Godlove, your comment reminds me that we all share a common thread in our human experience no matter how different our life station. We are all broken as a result of the Fall, and like Adam and Eve, our natural tendency is to hide…from God and one another. But thanks be to God, in Christ we have redemption in ALL things. I think if we lay down our fear of rejection, judgement, and emotional intimacy, we give God something to work with. A place is made, where like in Ruth’s story, the “roses” can be planted. Knowing we struggle with this, we can be sure that others do, too. There is a song that I love by Casting Crowns called “Broken Together”, and though it is written in the context of the marriage relationship, it still applies to all relationships. The gist of it simply asks the question, “Can we be broken together?” That’s how I feel about this subject. We all know we are broken…can we just lay it out before God and one another and be broken together so that He can bring healing in the light of His presence? Okay…way too long, but I just had to respond to you. Thank you for sharing, my kindred spirit friend. 🙂
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 3:01 pm
Oh very well put. “To be broken together.” I’m SO blessed by your comments here. Thanks so much!
godlove on April 22, 2016 at 4:46 pm
No, gagirllive, not long at all, your response was very short indeed :-). Thanks for responding and for sharing your insight on how to overcome the challenge. It’s comforting to know that there are fellow believers facing similar challenges in this journey. Like samgaskill added, it takes humility to get over the fear of opening up to fellow believers about our short-comings. And it’s important to ask God for discernment in finding the right people to talk to, those who can understand that we are “broken together”. Thank you very much my kindred spirit friend.
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 5:43 pm
You are all so wonderful and I am blessed by your thoughtful comments. Interestingly I was just saying to my husband how very real everyone in the forum is. When we simply share our heart without the other stuff, you know our personal statistics. Our ages, our gender, our statuses if you will. What we do, what we have, and all that external stuff. Sadly, it’s as deep as some feel safe to go. Never getting to matters of the heart even in our homes! I crave that sort of intimacy and believe that is how God designed us. With that intimacy in mind; real and meaningful relationship where all are safe to nurture and be nurtured! So anyhoo, I’m just glad you share here and as God wills you can share your hunger and thirst for Him with others. Thank You sweet Jesus for showing us Your unconditional love and acceptance in this way through these brothers and sisters!!
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 6:32 pm
Amen!!! “Sharing our heart without all the other stuff”…that’s what makes this work. Bypassing all the labels and tags and getting down to the heart. You nailed it, Mary! 🙂
samgaskill on April 23, 2016 at 10:02 am
Good morning friends. Haven’t yet had a chance to read todays devotional. Yesterday’s insight still is with me. I am smiling at gagirls reference to the “song that never ends”. Thought I’d add another verse to yesterdays song: ) Read this in Billy Grahams Decision magazine today, in an article about Godly sorrow, weeping over sin by Leonard Ravenhill. I pondered on gagirl’s comment once again. “Can we be broken together?” Here is what I read, “Blest are the men of broken heart, who mourn for sin with inward smart. Herein are three very vital issues: broken hearts, mourning and sin. First, “a broken and a contrite heart God will not despise” (psalm 51:17). In fact, God only uses broken things. For example, Jesus took the lad’s bread and broke it. Then, and only then, could if feed the crowd. The alabaster box was broken. Only then could its fragrance escape and fill the house-and the world. Jesus said, “this is My Body which was broken for you.” So I am thinking we are safe in sharing our brokenness and can rejoice with a contrite heart. God can use this. Let us not fear the judgement of men but live to please God with our brokenness before Him and before men. He has overcome the world in His brokenness for us and we can fear not! Have a really awesome weekend friends. With love and prayers for all of us, Mary
gagirllive on April 23, 2016 at 10:29 am
Thanks for sharing that, friend. Good stuff. Have a wonderful weekend!
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 2:57 pm
Hi again friends. I identify too with your thoughts about being able to open up freely with our Lord, but lacking trust to expose your vulnerability to others. I suspect this is true of all of us to some degree. Only the Father is able to love us unconditionally. I believe when we grasp His steady, unwavering love and offer of forgiveness we can more easily bare all before Him. But with people who love WITH conditions, as all of us undoubtedly do; this is much harder. Can seem too big of a risk. I have experienced some times of “telling all” only later to be met with that feeling I’ve shared too much, or rushed into a new relationship that needed some time to grow. I am learning to wait upon the Lord as much as I am able in this regard. When the timing is of God it can be humbling to reveal a weakness but exciting knowing that God will take and use it for good; usually for all parties involved. I pray the Lord will bless us by teaching us true humility; but with His wisdom and discernment to guide us along. And Lord, help us to be worthy, nonjudgemental listeners of others who choose to share openly with us. Blessings upon us all in this challenge to be real and open but with divine knowledge and understanding.
Ruth O'reilly-smith on April 22, 2016 at 3:12 pm
Hi godlove. This challenge (which I also struggle with), speaks to one of the greatest of human fears – the fear of rejection. So, I may not speak candidly of my struggles to a fellow believer or friend, for fear that they may judge me and so reject me. As mentioned before, we do need wisdom to know who we should talk to, but more importantly, we need to be at peace with who we are in Christ and be confident that we are accepted by Him, and that that in itself is sufficient. God bless you in your continuing journey with Jesus.
godlove on April 22, 2016 at 4:53 pm
Thank you so much for your encouraging words Ruth. Maybe that’s why, unlike you, I’m on here with a pseudonym? (For fear of someone who knows me reading my comments). I feel so blessed to have this opportunity to read the devotionals here (almost) everyday, and especially I’m thankful for the opportunity to discuss freely with fellow believers about the different facets of our different (but sometimes strikingly similar) journeys with Christ, and without any “fear of rejection”! Blessings to the ODJ team and all fellow commenters.
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 5:24 pm
I know today’s thread has become like the song that never ends, but one more thing…godlove, I think you touched on something when you spoke in jest about using a pseudonym here at ODJ. I think you are right… that is one more way we “hide”. Here we are—sharing some of our deepest thoughts, struggles, and experiences—but incognito. Other than the ODJ writers, Gary Shultz, jimspillane, and samgaskill who disclosed herself as Mary a while back, the rest of us have put up a barrier of…self-protection? Interesting.
Ruth O'reilly-smith on April 22, 2016 at 2:47 pm
Beautifully said gagirllive. We do need God’s wisdom and discernment when it comes to “confessing our sins one to another” (James 5:16). Out of the depths of that gloriously open relationship with our loving Heavenly Father, we grow more confident in the guidance and leading of the Holy Spirit.
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 9:25 am
Thank you Ruth, Gary and gagirl for such thoughtful insight. Years ago I found an article and saved it because it impacted me deeply. It was similar to our discussion here today. All about the “rooms” in our heart and which ones we felt good enough to let the Lord visit. I was so excited I made copies for friends and family I thought would be blessed and encouraged and mailed maybe 15 copies out. I don’t know what God chose to do with that in each ones life because not one even mentioned it. I felt a bit hurt by it actually. Aha! A room exposed that I hadn’t allowed God full access to. My pride room. I thought I’d opened this door but realized I hadn’t thrown it wide open under Gods completely safe scrutiny! In my eagerness to share all I was learning as a young believer I’d lost sight of the fact that God gives the increase. He may channel that thru me but I must not focus on what I did; only what He was doing. Over the years God continues to come in different rooms tenderly yet with the purpose of freeing me from unseen burdens without chastisement or condemnation. Just as a faithful Father, teaching me, loving me all the way to full maturity….one day : ) Really appreciate this visual perspective of our hearts. Have a wonderful day as we gladly spring clean our rooms with the help of our Comforter, Redeemer, our God, our King!!
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 9:47 am
“Freeing us from unseen burdens”…I like that thought. We surrender to Him our hearts and He does the exposing. He reveals and identifies “junk” even unknown to us. Always appreciate your voice here, samgaskill. 🙂
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 10:13 am
Truly we are blessed to enjoy the start of meaningful relationships….here in this way….knowing it will last through all eternity. Your experiences and insight are treasures to me! Every sister and brother here enriches our lives! Praise God for giving of Himself through one another!!
Ruth O'reilly-smith on April 22, 2016 at 2:56 pm
samgaskill, your story reminds me of the many times I have shared with others in haste, something precious that God revealed to me, and which I later realised was only meant for me. I guess it was that ‘pride room’. I wanted others to know about all the cool stuff God was teaching me
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 1:00 pm
Just an additional insight, y’all (as we southerners say). I think in metaphors, and as I chewed on today’s post a little more I was struck by something in your story, Ruth. By taking the risk of vulnerability with your friend—exposing what you called your junk of a yard—you made way for one of the most beautiful and fragrant flowers to be planted…the rose. I wonder what beauty—what fragrant aroma—God wants to yield from our lives if only we would risk sharing our brokeness and shame, not only with Him but others also. Roses won’t flourish in darkness…they need exposure to light and sun. Hmm…Jesus and the junk—it’s worth the risk, I think. Don’t you?
Ruth O'reilly-smith on April 22, 2016 at 3:01 pm
Absolutely spot on gagirllive – thanks for sharing. You’re motivating me make space for the good stuff to flourish
samgaskill on April 22, 2016 at 3:09 pm
Yes, every time! I love gardening and I am about to get my hands dirty in the yard today. Much to meditate on today! I also immediately thought of the Michael W. Smith song “Above All”. Jesus being the very “essence of light” referred to as a Rose trampled on the ground as He thought about us, above all. I will be thinking in roses all weekend long : )
Crucified
Laid behind a stone
You lived to die
Rejected and alone
Like a rose
Trampled on the ground
You took the fall
And thought of me
Above all
gagirllive on April 22, 2016 at 3:18 pm
Love that song, too!