Last fall I had to make the decision to have our family dog of 15 years put to sleep. It was one of the most heart-wrenching decisions I’ve ever made. There’s a reason why we refer to dogs as “man’s best friend.” Roger Caras once said, “Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.”
I’m a better person for having had our “little buddy.” Among other things, he taught me the value of forgiveness. I can recall many times when we butted heads (he never fully accepted that he wasn’t the alpha male of the home) and found ourselves doggone mad at each other. Amazingly, he was always quick to forgive and move on.
My dog didn’t realize it, but he illustrated something that Paul stressed as essential for human relationships: “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you” (Colossians 3:13). He urged the same thing when he counseled his readers to “live in peace” whenever possible (Romans 12:18).
During what is often referred to as the “Sermon on the Mount,” Jesus stressed that we are far better off if we settle our differences quickly (Matthew 5:25). Theologian Frederick Buechner wrote, “To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor the last toothsome morsel of both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back—in many ways it is a feast for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.”
Do you have an unresolved, lingering issue with someone? Get it taken care of quickly. Keep short accounts in relationships. You’ll be glad you did.
More:
See that no one pays back evil for evil, but always try to do good to each other and to all people (1 Thess. 5:15).
Next:
Ask God to show you if you have an old grudge that you’ve been secretly nursing against someone. How will you learn to keep short accounts that honor Him?
unclegene on September 27, 2010 at 10:28 am
It sometimes seems that it is easier to forgive than to forget.
crick on September 27, 2010 at 7:41 pm
I want to thank God for reminding me to practise forgiveness. I have been overseas for awhile leaving my 2 girls with my husband. Recently one of my girls felt sick and my parents couldn’t reach him. I was very upset as he left his handphones in the living room, hence could not hear the calls. Thank God for supportive parents. My husband has to be outstationed the next day and again he repeated the mistakes of not remaining contactable at all times. I was fuming mad. I became hostile when we talked over the phone. In my heart, I pray that God will change him to be more sensitive and careful. I have tried my best to be an understanding wife as I know his job is also very stressful. I felt that most of his time is given to his work & not me. So the more I think, the more upset I became. After reading this passage, I was reminded once again to make allowance for other’s fault and not to bear grudges. I am going to make peace with my husband now. Life will be more pleasant when we live in peace and harmony =)
tom felten on September 28, 2010 at 6:07 am
crick, thanks for giving us all a living example of seeking peace in our relationships—a peace that reflects the forgiveness and patience of God’s heart. May God give you and your husband a less stressful path in the days ahead.