John and Bessie Gonleh needed help. They had already endured John being gunned down by rebels in their native Liberia (he barely survived), years of disease-ridden refugee camps, and the death of three of their children due to regional warfare.
A fellow believer, businessman Bruce Beakley, was returning to the United States from hip replacement surgery in Belgium when he met the Gonlehs in an airport. Touched by their plight, he became a passionate advocate—helping them to relocate in the US and then to be reunited with two of their children who had been detained in Guinea for 3 years.
Bruce has lived out what Paul called the Philippians to do: “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others too” (2:4). The apostle was not dealing with just one hurting couple, but a whole congregation facing persecution by others (1:27-30). But much like Bruce’s example, he instructed his fellow believers in Jesus to follow the Savior’s example and be otherly.
The Savior’s example of a humble servant is beautifully rendered in the early hymn found in Philippians 2:6-11. To live Jesus’ way requires four things:
- Unity in Jesus — “Fellowship together in the Spirit” (Philippians 2:1).
- Sharing in His love — “Loving one another” (v.2).
- Humble hearts — “Thinking of others as better than yourselves” (v.3).
- Being otherly — “Take an interest in others” (v.4).
Bruce Beakley could have politely listened to the Gonleh’s story and then flown back to business as usual. Instead, he chose to humble himself and extend God’s love (vv.2-3). He was otherly. How will you consider others’ interests today? How will you be otherly?
More:
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them (Romans 12:9).
makks on June 3, 2009 at 4:40 am
This story touched me but i have a real life issue, most people who have come to me with challenges similar to this and have received help from me,have been fraudulent/have taken undue advantage of the situation and this hurts so badly,so much so that you do not even want to hear the first sad tale the next person has to tell….how then do you deal with this as a christian?
bedwards1317 on June 3, 2009 at 5:27 am
What matters is that the Bible says, When you do it unto others, you do it to Me(God)
Keep giving.God loves a giving heart.Don’t worry about the outcome. God looks at a cheerful giver.
Yes, use discretion, but trust God because even though you gave to a person or cause, as long as you gave self-lessly if you truly felt that God told you to give “whatever”, let Him handle the results. He’s looking for your continued faithfulness and He will take care of you.
Keneld on June 3, 2009 at 6:40 am
Hey makks I truly know how you feel, I too have been a victim many times, but I pray to God for discernment each time and I give, and I will continue to give because I firmly believe I have been blessed so that I may be a blessing to others……God will take care of all the other details…….so dont be discouraged keep giving……
Corryn on June 3, 2009 at 8:59 am
I agree with you all. I, too, keep in mind I am doing good things (people abuse other gifts, as well as money!), for God’s glory and by His conviction. I never know how He is dealing with the person… it’s hard to keep that in mind — part of the humility of following the Lord’s leading. I’m not the One in Control! He is, always! And I’m so grateful to Him for that. You will be rewarded for your faithfulness — that He has promised in His Word, as is pointed out.
Someone from our church keeps giving us money anonymously — never the same amount — always meeting the need. Although I would love to personally thank this person(s) for their generosity, others have told me that this gives me an opportunity to just thank God and glorify Him for meeting our needs at this difficult time in our lives. That is true giving! God gets ALL the glory! Thank You Lord for Your children who respond to Your nudging, Your Word, and the Holy Spirit…all through Jesus’ name.
learning2serv on June 4, 2009 at 7:48 am
I’m reading a wonderful book on Christian conduct for business people called “Business by the Book” by Larry Burkett. Reading your reply reminds me of something he refers to as “heavenly sandpaper”.
Helped someone recently – they lived with us for a couple of months. My wife is on the list for a double lung transplant and I should be getting a bilateral hip replacement within a year – we’re both under 50.
My wife lives in significant pain, and this person stole our pain pills – quite a few – several times. This person, who had served my wife faithfully and had become like a daughter to us treated us roughly in that one series of acts. Otherwise she was a very helpful young lady.
Had to find the strength to forgive because it was the Christian thing to do, right? Well… when I prayed about it, came to understand that it was the RIGHT thing to do because I was a Christian, and not to check the block. Alarmed at that revelation, I realized that I’d been doing a lot of “block checking Christianity” lately.
She did things FOR me spiritually that no amount of Bible study and Sunday school has done in years of being saved. My walk with God is so close right now because of her.
She wasn’t the first, and I know she won’t be the last, especially as long as God has to deal with my calloused heart-parts.
God used her to polish off a lot of the edges that had start growing rough – but she increased the callouses of my spiritual knees.
I don’t know the outcome in her life – that part is still playing out (pray for her and her daughter) – but I am very glad she came into my life, despite the pain, frustration, anger, and betrayal my wife and I had to go through.
Hoping she gets it straight; hoping I get it straight too!
This is a good day to laugh at myself, and I’m doing quite a bit of it! It’s a good day to slow down and stop taking things – and myself – so seriously.
-l2s
makks on June 10, 2009 at 5:50 pm
WOW, i must say all your comments have been very
insightful and encouraging and i have picked out two
very important advice,be discerning and never stop
giving…however i have added a third….keep asking
for grace to trust Gods word when he instructs us to
give……thank y’all.